08/27/09
Amy

(Living Love) Two Things


Even when we are not consciously thinking about it, we are growing, changing and modifying our behavior based on experiences, consequences, and feedback (subtle or clear) that we get from those around us. We frequently see things in our spouse that we want them to change or to do more often. But when they do something that does make you feel loved, considered, or taken care of, do you take a moment to affirm or thank them?

Look back on the last week and find two things that your spouse did that made you feel loved or that was important to you. Maybe it was an unexpected hug, them filling up your car with gas or doing a simple chore for you, tucking the kids into bed so that you could have a break, or a compliment that they gave you. In a quiet way, just thank them for it and maybe add on a brief comment about how it impacted your day.

Most changes in people don’t happen overnight. Just as you want people to be patient with your gradual growth, do the same for your spouse. It is so easy to give negative feedback, but I challenge you this week to find two places to give them positive feedback.

One comment on “(Living Love) Two Things

  1. Sara Parsons on said:

    This is good. I realized a little while back that I often tell Stephen what I don’t like but was not very good at telling him when “he did good,” I have started making it a point to recognize all the little things that I appreciate. It also helps your attitude. When you are on the look out and being a good-finder is so much more pleasant.

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