Archive for April, 2010

04/05/10
Amy
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(Parenting) Doop! Doop!


There is an age-old debate on how to respond when your child gets hurt. You can tell them that it didn’t really hurt and to brush it off or you can overflow with sympathy about something that really wasn’t that big of a deal. In either case, you are telling for the child how they should feel. That leaves the child completely unable to assess his own mental, emotional, or physical state. He feels instead that he has to look to others to tell him. Our goal as parents should be to teach them to examine the way they feel and then learn how to appropriately respond.

Our family has established a response for when one of our children gets lightly hurt, and we have found it to be fairly effective in giving them the opportunity to evaluate minor mishaps. When we see our child have a small mishap, before they begin to cry, we declare in a sing-song voice, “Doop! Doop!” It doesn’t set out any expectations and conveys without words, “I see you got hurt. That’s a bummer!” The little distraction is just enough to make them smile or giggle a little bit. If they do proceed to cry, then we know that they really were hurt and we give them the hug of reassurance that they need. Otherwise, the simple acknowledgment of the mishap might be all that they need.

04/02/10
Amy

(Classic Play) Educational Egg Hunts


Kids squeal about and beg to do egg hunts. There is great anticipation and excitement in the hunt. We must bear in mind, though, that a household can contain only so much candy. But if your kids are still longing to continue the hunt, then by all means encourage this classic activity. They are often happy to simply find eggs without anything in them and they might really enjoy hiding them for each other!

There is another option yet, though! You can do an educational egg hunt! Put a slip of paper into each plastic egg with an educational answer. It might be a math question or a word or a sentence for them to try to sound out. For even younger kids, you can have them say the name of a given shape, color, or letter. If you are feeling generous, you can put a penny into each egg and let them keep it if they get the answer right! You will never see your kids so excited about finding and answering educational questions.

04/01/10
Amy

(Crafts) Egg Dying


EasterEggsWhen in doubt, go with the classic holiday activities. Some years we might come to a holiday where we happen to have a creative bug and we go all out with the holiday relevant crafts and activities. But for the rest of the time, it is usually best to stick with the same few activities that you do every year. There is little to no learning curve for you and these are the ones that your kids most strongly reference as a holiday tradition anyway! And as an added bonus, if your simple traditional activities align with the culture’s traditional holiday activities, then society’s marketing does half the work for you as they build it up as something special. Think about your own positive holiday associations – don’t you find yourself getting excited and a little sentimental when you see the first display of Easter baskets or Easter Egg Dye packets? Don’t underestimate the significance of the smallest tradition.

So my suggestion is simple: Dye a few Easter Eggs this year. Your kids will think it is one of the most magical and wonderful crafts ever.