04/05/10
Amy
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(Parenting) Doop! Doop!


There is an age-old debate on how to respond when your child gets hurt. You can tell them that it didn’t really hurt and to brush it off or you can overflow with sympathy about something that really wasn’t that big of a deal. In either case, you are telling for the child how they should feel. That leaves the child completely unable to assess his own mental, emotional, or physical state. He feels instead that he has to look to others to tell him. Our goal as parents should be to teach them to examine the way they feel and then learn how to appropriately respond.

Our family has established a response for when one of our children gets lightly hurt, and we have found it to be fairly effective in giving them the opportunity to evaluate minor mishaps. When we see our child have a small mishap, before they begin to cry, we declare in a sing-song voice, “Doop! Doop!” It doesn’t set out any expectations and conveys without words, “I see you got hurt. That’s a bummer!” The little distraction is just enough to make them smile or giggle a little bit. If they do proceed to cry, then we know that they really were hurt and we give them the hug of reassurance that they need. Otherwise, the simple acknowledgment of the mishap might be all that they need.

3 comments on “(Parenting) Doop! Doop!

  1. mommaruth on said:

    Interesting idea! I try and take my cue from the child. If he/she is upset, then I acknowledge as such. If he/she isn’t too bothered then I acknowledge and go on too!

  2. Good point! I love this. It is interesting how often times they will react according to how we react to the situation. Are you even reading this comment? :)

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